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Gortin Shyver's avatar

These points aren’t new and they don’t work. The vast majority of people aren’t interesting, reflective, or clever enough to answer any of your follow up questions to “where are you from?” meaningfully. They just end up delaying the inevitable fade and awkward exit.

A great conversation needs buy-in from both parties to be open and vulnerable, which in turn require suitable surroundings. Brightly lit, noisy, or crowded places are conversation killers, which most public spaces are.

Sometimes just the right space is enough to spark a meaningful conversation, like a long car ride or being stuck in a power outage.

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Yashraj Singh Giri's avatar

I relate so hard to the second and third points. I've witnessed how awkward sharing personal info becomes for people. And I also tend to get very interviewy xd

But, after some practice, now I'm usually inquisitive when I talk, and I try to relate to their experiences if there's scope for that.

I think practice and a great lack of overthinking are needed for just having free-flowing conversations. What do you think?

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